Thoughts on Criticism

What I have learned from negative criticism is self-loathing and despair. I know I've inflicted it on others and it's been sprinkled on me as well.

Once over criticism I stumble forward none the wiser but more cautious. Those who wish to teach using negative criticism only fool themselves into thinking it is teaching. Learning comes mostly from emulation. It's how we learned to walk, talk, sing, and live.

I've heard it said we learn more from our failures than our successes but I'm not so sure. Failures are filled with angst, depression, cynicism, skepticism, contempt and loss of confidence. They are a part of life, but well worth leaving behind. Visiting the caverns of failure is only done after positive experiences have led us to understand we are of value. Then, perhaps, in tranquility, we can stop for a moment at the cavern, peek inside and pull something of use for later.

Should anyone seek to shove us inside that dank cave of despair, through words of criticism to make sure we learn from our failures, we enter unarmed and at the mercy of the bowels of negativity.

Instead, journey forth to the springs of eternal life and sip from the clear pools surrounding it. Take others with you. Encourage them as if they were already there. Kind words. Thoughtful encouragement. A mansion can be built upon a miniscule foundation if positive thoughts are applied. As those thoughts mature into actions, the foundation magically increases and soon become rock solid and far wider than the loftiest mansion may need. As the shingles of positive thoughts are applied to the roof, no longer are the hailstorms of negative criticism allowed to damage the mansion's gossamer draperies and plush carpets.

I've considered criticism and conclude that I welcome all criticism so long as it is filled with love and adulation.